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Flea Season Bites

Flea Blog | Dianerosesolomon.com I love summertime. Sunshine and tank tops, swimming outdoors (full disclosure, I live in LA and swim outdoors year round.) But still, at least it’s warm when I get in the pool during summer. I love the longer days, the full green leaves on trees, flowers in bloom… The list goes on.

But summer also means FLEA SEASON. My dogs get fleas every summer. I don’t keep my dogs on year-round flea control partly because the prescribed topicals are toxic and partly because in my experience they don’t really work well either.

Even though our backyard doesn’t have grass, I guess fleas can live anywhere. And my smaller dog, Gonzo, loves to roll around in the grass on walks. So we’ve got fleas. I haven’t seen any in a few weeks but their itchy effects can last for weeks. And this year, temperatures in LA got warm much earlier than usual and I’m told flea infestations are worse than normal. Ugh.

Normally I can bathe the dogs with a natural flea repellent (lavender oil that my groomer uses) wash all the bedding, vacuum, spray them from time to time with a natural flea spray and use a topical anti-flea medication once or twice and voila they’re gone.

But this year Ninja was scratching more than normal, which turned into biting his nether regions and then full on slurping (sorry- I know it’s gross.) But that’s how I knew it was really bad and he had to get to the vet. He was licking much of his fur off from his underbelly and tail. Poor guy. Oh, and while I’m venting, I’ll share that when my dogs get fleas they bite me too. No one else in the family. Just me.

I try to keep things natural. I really do. But desperate times seek desperate measures and the vet suggested we try an oral flea medication. Double Ugh. We tried one years ago and it made one dog Sleeping Dogs | Dianerosesolomon.com sick and another dog refused to take it the second time so we knew it was toxic. I swore them off. But here I am- desperate, so I tried it (a different medication) again. And since Ninja’s reaction to the fleas (which I haven’t even seen in weeks) was so severe the vet also prescribed us an anti-allergy pill. And more vacuuming and dog bed washing.

I have to say, within hours of taking the anti-allergy pills, he stopped licking and biting and slurping (thank goodness) and despite being a little extra sleepy from the meds, was back to his playful self. (I know- they don’t look very playful in this photo- trust me, he’s back to his playful self.)

Why am I sharing? Partly for sympathy from other dog parents who might be going through the same experience (believe me, if you are, I have total compassion for you.) And partly to ask, does anyone have a fabulous natural flea deterrent and remedy? I scoured the Internet and didn’t come up with anything that has worked for me. But if you do, please leave a comment below or email me! And if your dog is really suffering, please take them to the vet. They can probably help you like ours helped me.

Good luck and enjoy the sunshine!

New Books in Team Kindness Book Club!

When I stumbled across an article about a woman who had become a Certified Humane Education Specialist, I thought: “Well that sounds interesting. Learning how to teach humane education. Hmm. Let’s investigate.” It felt so aligned to be able to share the importance of animal adoption, kindness and making a difference in some way big or small in one’s community.

So I became a Certified Humane Education Specialist and then I felt called to share the story of how I accidentally adopted our first dog, and how it changed my life. In 2010 the JJ The American Street Dog children’s book series was born. Since then I’ve met and worked with countless authors who are also motivated to share their story through children’s books, making a difference to children, their families, animals and their community.

I started Team Kindness as a resource for families and educators and am happy to announce a slew of new additions to the Team Kindness Book Club!

First, I’d like to share Start Off on the Right Paw, which is the sequel to Don’t Judge a Book By its Cover by Denise Fleck. This story builds on the lessons of the first book and teaches kids about pet safety and volunteering, along with not judging dogs, people or anything by outward appearances. Denise’s passion for humane education and pet safety education shine through in this second book.

Next up is: Buzzy and Thomas Move into the President’s House, a historical fiction book by Vicki Tashman. This middle-grade reader teaches kids about President Jefferson, the dog he brought home from France and the issues they had when they moved. Vicki creatively teaches a little bit of history through this delightful story.

Finally, there are four books from fellow humane educators Valerie Ingram and Alistair Schroff.

The first two titles are: How I Care for My Happy Dog and How I Care for My Happy Cat which is actually two books in one in the printed version. I won’t spoil the surprise but it’s cleverly done. These books are similar and offer a very young child some basics about loving a pet.

The second title is called Nobody’s Cats and is based upon a true story about community cats in British Columbia and what some good-hearted people did to help them.

Lastly, Out of the Cold is a wonderful story about building dog houses for dogs in cold climates. Out of the Cold is based on the true story of a community coming together to solve a problem, and with the help of some ingenious design work and inspired students, grew into a program that has built or refurbished over 250 dog and cat houses! And they offer the plans and instructions on their website for you to be able to build the same kind of house in your home or community!

The children’s book part of the Out of the Cold story is wonderful. And the detailed explanation at the end of the book of how Lakes Animal Friendship Society started out with a concept to help animals in need and then the project snowballed into a full-scale, duplicatable design is just incredible. It’s kind of like the bonus footage at the end of movie credits.

And the icing on the cake is that Lakes Animal Friendship Society also offers really well-done coloring and activity books that promote humane education and we have a few of their educational activities available for download on the Fun Stuff page on the Team-Kindness website. Check it out, download away and share share share!

I’ve Pet That Dog!

Anyone who knows me, knows that I stop to pet just about every dog I meet. Only I wasn’t smart enough to get a nice photo and story about each dog. Gideon is!

Check out his website and twitter feed.

This kid is amazing. And in some of his photos, he’s wearing a tee shirt that says “Can I pet your dog?”. Brilliant! He should market that shirt. I would probably buy one. 😉

Of course, the first thing I think is “Don’t put your face too close to that dog’s face” but I can only hope everyone is being cautious.

Either way, what a cool kid. He loves dogs and is letting everyone know it. Keep lovin’ on the dogs, Gideon and sharing the photos. You rock.

Is Your Dog a Calm Canine?

Regardless of your dog’s energy level or history, we all want our dogs to be well-adjusted and content. Enter aromatherapy to the rescue. I’ve always been curious about aromatherapy and have tried just a little bit on myself. When I met Vicki Rae Thorne of Earth Heart® Inc. a few years ago, I learned that there are many effective applications for animals as well. Vicki has been helping animals for decades after initially formulating a product for herself. Read on to learn how she has helped pioneer the industry and how her products can help you and your pup.

DRS: How did you get started in your pet business?

VRT: It was love at first smell when I attended a weekend intensive on essential oils in 1992. I’d been diagnosed with fibromyalgia after a whiplash injury 4 years earlier, and was inspired to start making massage oils and bath salts to address my constant pain and stress. Because I was pregnant and had a 5-year-old at home, everything had to be safe for everyone, and I apply that same level of responsibility to formulating for dogs.

In 1999, I was approached by a kennel owner who wanted help with calming her canine visitors. The dogs missed their families and felt anxious, agitated, angry or depressed. The formula now known as Canine Calm® was developed to diffuse in the kennel – and it helped from day one!

DRS: I love that you were willing to explore possible applications for animals and it worked! How does your business help both animals and people?

VRT: A happy and heathy dog brings peace of mind to pet parents. Topical aromatherapy products can support the human-animal bond, facilitate behavior modification and improve health. An added benefit is that the remedies you are using with your dog can have the same effect on you!

DRS: I love that. Do you have a personal or professional relationship to animal rescue?

VRT: Giving back has been part of the Earth Heart brand, supporting the efforts of over 100 rescues, shelters and other charitable organizations with product donations for raffle or silent auction. Our 2018 sponsorship of Anderson Animal Shelter is also personal.

In June of 2017, we met a black wiry-haired little dog, the only dog in the shelter that day. While all the other dogs went to an adoption event, he’d been left behind to recover from some minor medical issues. He stole our hearts.

A big brown eye was peeking out between the kennel bars, and as we got closer we could see exuberant tail-wagging. He licked each of us through the bars so we asked to meet with him in the greeting room. I found out later that all three of us independently noticed a little black paw – the magic paw – reaching under the kennel door as we walked away, and I think that was the moment we all knew. We’d previously met with several dogs who were more interested in toys than us. Not this little guy – we tossed the ball, he looked at it, turned away, walked up to each of us and snuggled in. What I’ve been told about humans being chosen by the dog proved to be true.

His shelter name was Scruffy because he’s a wired-haired terrier mix. On the drive home, we started a list of cool names like Otis and Einstein. A couple of days later, I unconsciously called out “Toby,” and he came running down the hallway to my office. The name fit.

I wanted to give back locally this year, which is why I’m a sponsor. The shelter experience is fulfilling for a number of reasons – they help find good homes for lost or abandoned dogs, reduce overpopulation through spay/neuter programs, offer quality medical programs, training and micro-chipping.

Toby wasn’t micro-chipped until he arrived at the shelter. Although we don’t know his story, we can tell he was well-loved and socialized. I can’t help but wonder if our joy is at the expense of a family losing a beloved dog due to that omission. It’s why we sponsor Lost Pet Prevention Month.

DRS: Toby’s story is beautiful. You have such a big heart to wonder about Toby’s previous family. I say we trust that Toby was meant to be your baby and as such propel you to potentially save other families from heartbreak via Lost Pet Prevention.

Can you offer a few professional tips to my readers?

VRT: Since there is no regulatory agency that grades essential oils, “therapeutic-grade” or “medical-grade” is merely a marketing ploy. Claims of an essential oil “cure-all” are false; your dog’s age, temperament, health, rescue status, symptoms and scent preferences all contribute to which essential oils are appropriate to use.

Pure essential oils are highly concentrated, and whether inhaled or topically applied, they must be diluted before using. Undiluted or high percentages of essential oils can overwhelm your dog’s sense of smell, cause systemic sensitization, and irritate the skin or lungs.

Using a diffuser is diluting in air. Be sure to diffuse in well-ventilated areas for short periods of time: 15 minutes 1-2 times daily can be sufficient. Place diffusers away from bird cages and fish tanks, and make sure that cats can easily leave the area.

DRS: Very helpful. Thank you. What’s next up for your business? What can we be looking for?

VRT: Our essential oil blends are now available in coconut oil-based roll-ons, and a blend for PTSD and other trauma is nearly ready for release.

Our customers continue to ask for cat remedies, so I’m working on a non-essential oil line for cats and dogs.

DRS: Super cool. I love that you are addressing PTSD and kitties! Where can we learn more about you and your business?

VRT: Visit EarthHeartInc.com or contact me at vicki@earthheartinc.com or 847-551-1806.

DRS: Is there anything else you would like for people to know about you or your business?

VRT: Earth Heart practices Responsible Aromatherapy™:

— Situations (and dogs) are unique: Using a highly diluted product allows you to control the amount and frequency of dosage to use the least amount needed for the desired result.

— Resource protection: Diluting essential oils prevents the overharvesting of plants from both overuse and exploitation of depressed economies.

— Protect physical health: Some essential oils are irritating to skin and mucous membranes when used in high concentrations.

— Less is more: Trained (certified, registered, clinical) aromatherapists promote minimal exposure to prevent sensitization through controlled dosage and dilution.

— Cost effective: Diluting essential oils is not only safer, it’s also more affordable.

My aromatherapy and herbal certifications are through Jeanne Rose Herbal & Aromatherapy Studies, and I’m a long-standing member of the American Herbalists Guild, the Alliance of International Aromatherapists, and Women in the Pet Industry Network

Earth Heart® has built a reputation for designing safe, affordable and effective natural remedies for people, places and pets. All products are made in the USA, puppy-friendly from 10 weeks, and responsibly formulated with 100% pure essential oils to be safe and easy to use at home or work and while traveling. Earth Heart® is a proud sponsor of IJA Rescue Me Rodeos, Anderson Animal Shelter and Lost Pet Prevention Month.

DRS: This is so important. Thank you for this education, Vicki. I think we all tend to think “More is Better” and I love that you are reminding us that Less is More with essential oils, especially for our voiceless friends who we are trying to help, not harm.

And thank you again for your contribution to What to Expect When Adopting a Dog. You are making a difference to Pets People and the Planet and I am so grateful for your support and our connection.

People & Pet Fashion, and Many Dogs’ Lives Saved Along the Way

Photo credit: Jody Miller-Young

Jody Miller-Young is using many of her creative talents to help people enjoy their dog parenting experience with flair. She is also an animal rescue advocate in many ways- not only virtually sharing dogs online to help them find new homes, but also by volunteering at her local shelter in many capacities. Her home is full with four dogs who clearly know how to pose for the camera. Read on to find out how she was first inspired to jump into the pet world and make a splash.

DRS: Jody- we’ve known each other for years, but I don’t know how you originally got involved in your pet businesses. How did it all get started?

JMY: I had recently retired as a publicist in the entertainment industry in New York and was studying women’s fashion (a passion of mine) at Parson’s School of Design. I’d planned to open a small, bespoke women’s couture collection business, when we got a puppy named Sophie, who changed everything.

Photo credit: Couture by Sophie

I didn’t know how to sew, so I took a sewing class in my neighborhood and, as a practice project, made a coat for my new pup. People stopped us on the street and did so again with the second coat I made her. It dawned on me that what could be better than creating a custom luxury fashion brand for dogs, with Sophie as my muse. I called it Couture by Sophie and designed and made both custom coats for clients and created a limited edition collection over the next couple of years.

But, I found I missed utilizing the skills I had cultivated for all those years as a publicist like writing and interviewing. And, while I loved designing, getting these ready-to-wear collections made, and sewing custom coats were not fulfilling for me. So, Couture by Sophie morphed into Bark & Swagger, a “living stylishly with your dog” blog and radio show. I also became the Fashion Editor of Hamptons Pet magazine.

I’ve had a great time doing this, have been able to introduce and champion brands I love to more people and have met some very interesting people. Plus, I’ve learned so much about being a better dog parent.

DRS: Awesome. I love how one business dovetailed right in with the other. What can we learn about at Bark & Swagger?

JMY: Bark & Swagger started as a more generalist blog where I’d offer resources and information on a variety of topics from training to health and wellness to fashion and more. I interviewed experts in their fields.

Now, I offer interesting stories, resources and problem solvers with a stylish slant.

DRS: Cool. I know you are a big animal rescue advocate. Can you tell us about your experiences both professionally and personally?

JMY: Part of both Couture by Sophie and Bark & Swagger’s mission is to give back. Couture by Sophie gave a percentage of every garment sold to the American Humane Association and we got very involved with the organization, designing the nominees special coats for the red carpet for the Hero Dog Awards.

With Bark & Swagger, in addition to covering living stylishly with your dog, I also cover rescue, reporting on great rescue dog stories, interviewing those involved in rescue, those doing books on rescue and those who’ve created a business model that supports rescue.

Personally, I volunteer with Fort Lauderdale’s No Kill Shelter, called Abandoned Pet Rescue. What started out as helping to walk dogs (our father and daughter puppy mill rescued Chihuahuas, Albie and Anabelle came from them), has turned into me being a part of their marketing and major events committees.

DRS: That is fantastic. You have such a big heart and your social media posts reflect your genuine love for these dogs. Do you have a favorite pet or animal story?

Portrait painted by Barbara Tyler Ahlfield

JMY: I think Cletus is one. Best Friends Animal Society sent me a link to his story on their site, asking if I thought it would work for Bark & Swagger. Cletus is a deformed little dog, with a crooked nose, a massive overbite and fused joints. But, I was not alone in thinking he was not only adorable, but also fell in love with his indomitable spirit. He was brought to Best Friends as a stray from a city shelter and fostered by a wonderful woman and then adopted by a couple in L.A. Cletus now has his own Instagram page (@cletusspuckler_spucklercletus) with almost 8,000 followers.

Needless to say, I did a story on him for my blog, which was one of my first stories. Turns out Cletus is also a little fashionisto. You can read Cletus’ story at: http://barkandswagger.com/whats-different-shelter-dog-everything

DRS: I just read that story and I fell in love with Cletus. I love how you highlight that it’s our differences that make us special- human and dog alike.

Jody-Can you offer three professional adoption tips to my readers?

JMY:

1) Make sure you are aware of the big responsibility of owning a dog before you adopt.
2) Research which kinds of dogs suit your lifestyle and what you are most looking for in a dog.
3) Double check that your budget can handle the financial responsibilities of owning a dog. We have four, and while they are all very healthy, life happens and when you go to the vet for those things, it usually isn’t cheap. Double check that your budget can handle the financial responsibilities of owning a dog. We have four, and while they are all very healthy, life happens and when you go to the vet for those things, it usually isn’t cheap.

DRS: Very helpful pointers. What’s next up for your business? What can we be looking for?

JMY: While I’m still occasionally writing for my blog and doing interviews for my radio show, I’m now mostly focusing on developing a new business with my family; a custom, by hand finishes brand called AxolotlFL.

DRS: I love that you’ve branched out into other creative avenues and you are still a voice for the animals that need a proper family. Where can we learn more about you and your business?

JMY: On Bark & Swagger my blog , on my Bark & Swagger Boutique for cute doggy clothing and accessories and on the Pet Life Radio site for my radio show, also called Bark & Swagger.

DRS: Thank you, Jody, for sharing your couture experience and stylish living with dogs as well as your giant heart for helping find homeless dogs a loving forever home. Thank you also for your contribution to What to Expect When Adopting a Dog. You make a difference to both animals and people.

What Does the Color Blue Have to Do With Saving Animals?

Carole Feeny, co-founder of Project Blue Collar (PBC) is as passionate as they come about animal rescue, with a soft heart for Pit Bulls and Pit Bull type dogs. The energy behind Project Blue Collar is positive and inviting and I invite you to open your heart to an elevated perception of rescued dogs seen through Carole’s vision and Project Blue Collar’s mission.

DRS: Carole, you are doing amazing work creating awareness about animal rescue. How did this all come about for you?

CF: As a born animal lover, I was always stopping people with dogs to give a quick hello. I was amazed at how people who have adopted a dog wanted to share their story. They are so proud of the life they saved and they want people to know it. But I was equally amazed by the reactions of people when they would have a good encounter with a dog and find out it was a rescue. Why were they surprised that a rescue dog could be beautiful, healthy and well behaved?

The national animal cause organizations engender our pity with their marketing campaigns. Although successful at raising funds, these marketing campaigns portray rescued animals at their worst, leaving the public believing that they are damaged, sick, and basically not adoptable … I wanted to show the world that these awesome rescued dogs were healthy, happy and full of possibility. Why not make them the marketers of their own cause? So, I took the concept of us wearing our causes on our wrists through those rubber wristbands and turned it into collars for dogs.

Project Blue Collar aims to change the perception of rescue dogs. … Our goals remain focused on encouraging people to adopt and generating awareness for rescue organizations. Blue Collared dogs serve as ambassadors, demonstrating that rescue dogs are wonderful dogs. Our goal is for more people to adopt—not shop—when adding a pet to their family. Ultimately, we want to make the color blue synonymous with rescue and see our country become a no-kill nation. Blue is the color of loyalty and courage – two of the things we love most about our dogs, and those who rescue them …

DRS: Wonderful. I need to meet every dog I see on the street too, so I totally get where you are coming from! How does your business help both animals and people?

CF: Our goal is to elevate the status of rescue dogs as prized pets in order to spare the lives of millions of healthy, adoptable dogs who are killed every year around the world. PBC gives people the vehicle to tell their rescue dog’s story, to inspire and encourage others to adopt. As a social enterprise company, PBC has been giving back to rescue organizations from the start. We donate product and funds in two ways: We give them collars and leashes through our Buy One, Give One (BOGO) program and donate funds for medical emergencies through our Looking Backwards, Moving Forwards campaigns. We believe that our relationships with rescue groups and retailers create advocates for adoption in their communities and amplify the case for adoption in a grassroots, authentic way.

DRS: Clearly you are passionate about rescue, what was your initial connection to rescue?

CF: I have been active in animal rescue most of my life. I started fostering for an amazing group, Stray Animal Adoption Program (SAAP) more than 8 years ago. Since that time, I have fostered over 300 dogs, puppies and most recently a few cats and kittens. I typically foster pregnant mothers and litters…hence, why my numbers are so high. There is nothing more rewarding than watching a mother, who has been desperately trying to protect her litter, sleep peacefully knowing they are all warm and safe. It will leave a permanent mark on your heart.

DRS: That’s a lot of fostered animals! You are incredibly committed on every level. Do you have a favorite pet or animal story?

CF: This is such a difficult question as there are so many but I will choose one for the sake of this article. I was fostering a young pittie, Spike, who had been found living in squalor and taken into rescue. He was sweet, dog -friendly and a loving handful.

I try not to get too heavily involved in the adoption process as I find myself being judgmental when it comes to finding homes for my fosters. I dropped Spike off at an adoption event one morning. Later that day I saw his adoption picture online and I became concerned about his adopters. I was suspect as they looked young and inexperienced. Being a pittie owner is a big responsibility. Well, my gut instinct was right and he was returned seven months later, not in the best shape. After that, I became overprotective and put anyone who was interested in him under tight scrutiny. I had Spike for quite some time and was beginning to think he wasn’t going to find his perfect home. As much as I would post his cute mug, he just wouldn’t get much attention…a one-year-old, very strong pittie isn’t the easiest to get adopted.

But week after week there was one woman who would always comment. For whatever reason, Spike had stolen her heart. She was extremely interested but kept saying she had to convince her husband. Her husband wasn’t convinced. No matter how much she pushed he said absolutely not. She was devastated.

One day, I received a private message from a gentleman who was interested. He had good questions and I appreciated his due diligence. He said he already had an approved adoption application. What? Then he came clean. He said “my wife has been bugging you about Spike and she thinks she needs my permission. I want this to be a surprise for her.” He then showed me a picture she had made…she had taken Spike’s bio pic and blown it up and turned it into a poster saying ADOPT ME LOVE ME. This poster was taped to the front door. He said “this is what I have to come home to”. We arranged a ‘secret’ adoption, void of any public adoption photos, and he surprised his wife with Spike laying on their couch when she came home. They love him like no other and have taken the responsibility of being pittie parents very seriously. They protect him and I’m sure he will never see bad days again.

DRS: What an AMAZING story! I love it.

Can you offer three professional tips to my readers?

CF: Sure- here are three tips for bringing home your new rescued pet:

1- Provide slow introductions to new furry family members. Change is stressful and can take a toll on a newly adopted dog. Allow them time to decompress and get used to their new surroundings. Keep the introductions short at first and always monitored.

2- Routine. Set them up for success by starting them on a routine and keeping it. They want to know what is expected of them so routine is extremely helpful.

3- Always remember that day two is better than day one and so on and so on. I see far too many people give up on a dog after only a day. The nervous dog you bring home on day one is not the same dog you will have by day four. Give it time and patience.

DRS: That is perfect! So helpful for new and potential pet parents.

What’s next up for your Project Blue Collar? What can we be looking for?

CF: We want to continue expanding our Rescue Partner Network. I’d love to see our products sold at every shelter and rescue and on every rescue dog. We are also planning to expand our line and have some great design ideas coming to fruition in 2018.

DRS: Where can we learn more about you and PBC?

CF: You can check us out on www.projectbluecollar.com, Facebook, and Instagram.

DRS: Is there anything else you would like for people to know about you or your business?

CF: We are big on social media and take a different approach than others. We only share positive, uplifting, inspiring stories and encourage you to share yours with us. We post stories daily so if you have one, please share it with us here:

What to Expect When Adopting A Dog | Dianerosesolomon.com

https://projectbluecollar.com/share-your-story/

Also, if you know of a worthy rescue organization who would like to be the benefactor to our BOGO program, please let us know who they are: info@projectbluecollar.com

DRS: This is all wonderful, Carole. I’m sure the rescue groups and individuals that you are connected with are most thankful for your support, and I believe that the doggies are all grateful. I’m excited to see the work you do as Project Blue Collar expands and turns our whole world blue! Many thanks for your time and most importantly all you do to help animals and their people.

Standing Strong With Students

Therapy dogs at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School ready to comfort students

Today is March 14^th, 2018, one month after the Parkland Florida shooting that took the lives of 17 people. It is also the day that students around the nation are participating in a walkout supporting the grieving students who directly experienced the tragedy and also to come together to have their enraged and scared voices collectively heard.

Therapy dogs comforting students during the walkout

I have two teenagers who attend different high schools in Los Angeles and both schools are extremely supportive of the walkout. In speaking with my kids about it, I learned how much fear our kids live in. My son is afraid that when they walk out, there will be a shooter poised at the gate waiting for them. His school has a police officer at the gate now…in addition to private security.

And my daughter told me that there was a false fire alarm yesterday but no one wanted to go because they were afraid they would be sitting ducks. In fact, I received an email this morning that parents in her school want to form a human chain around the perimeter of her school during the walkout.

As our nation sorts out this string of tragedies we face a few issues: Two that come to mind are, how to temper gun use, and how to identify and help the people who are feeling so disenfranchised from society that they feel this is their only recourse.

Most importantly we are reminded that the people directly involved in the shootings, the witnesses, the survivors, family members and friends are grieving. I honor you all.

I like to quote Fred Rogers AKA “Mr. Rogers” during these senseless tragedies. “You will always find people who are helping… I am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers — so many caring people in this world.”

Love Button movement event

I also want to honor the helpers. There are so many to recognize but there are a few groups I’d like to highlight. The first is the animal therapy groups who had dogs at the ready for the students first day back at school. Humane Society Broward County’s Animal Assisted Therapy Team and Lutheran Church Charities were there to help the students. If you check out their social media you can see how helpful it was. Above are a couple of photos (including one from the walkout today). I am inspired.

And there’s another group that you may have seen before. They are the Love Button Global Movement organization. Perhaps you have a Love button? Or you’ve seen Chris Martin of Coldplay wearing one and spreading the love at one of his concerts (or at the Superbowl in 2016)?

Chris Martin of Coldplay visiting with students

The Love Button Global Movement was in Parkland on February 28^th at a Community Healing Gathering which was an event open to the public to support healing, offer comfort and to spread love. The feedback was that the attendees felt held and supported and heard and it was a healing experience. I am inspired.

To everyone in Parkland and everywhere else where these tragedies have changed you forever, please know you and your loved ones are in our hearts. And to all of the students and everyone supporting them as they take a stand today, I acknowledge your courage and determination in making your voices heard and making a difference. I am inspired.

Flying on the Invisible Wings of a Horse at Ride to Fly

Diane, 10 years old, with horse

Kiana loving Onions

When I was a kid I rode horses. Mostly because my friends did, but I enjoyed it. I attended weekly lessons and competed in a few shows.

When we weren’t riding, my friends and I would set up jumps in one of our driveways and pretend to be the horse cantering through the course and jumping over the jumps- leaning our body forward, mimicking the position that we take on top of a real horse.

But then I stopped riding for a few different reasons and didn’t think much about it for years. As an adult, I’ve been involved with dogs, and rather focused on rescue and humane education. Yet over the past few years, I’ve become more aware of the myriad ways that animals help people. Dogs, as many of us know, can be amazing service animals. Be it as a guide dog for the blind or a different challenge, or as a therapy dog where they visit a patient or work as a service dog for people with PTSD, the list of applications goes on. In some cases the dogs are highly trained, in others, just their Being offers the support needed.

The same goes for horses.

It’s actually remarkable how horses can help people on an emotional or physical level or a combination of the two and there are multiple types of equine therapy available. I’ve read about how sensitive horses are and how they tune into our emotions, which is fascinating and beautiful and something, up until now, I hadn’t experienced myself.

So when an opportunity presented itself to do a service project for a class I’m taking, one of the projects I chose was working with an equine therapy organization called Ride to Fly.

Ride to Fly was building up their volunteer base so I checked it out and have been extremely impressed with this organization.

Honestly, I was a little afraid of horses when I was a kid (they are really big animals) despite my choice to ride them every week for years. Coming from this new curious perspective I wanted to witness equine therapy for myself. So I drove down to Rancho Palos Verdes (CA) and attended the mandatory orientation at the barn. I was so excited. I hadn’t been in a barn in years. Ok decades. It’s been a long time.

Wild peacocks

The barn is located on the hillside above the Pacific Ocean in Palos Verdes. It is picturesque and in the gated community on the way to Ride to Fly, you might find some bunnies and even a few wild peacocks (and coyotes I’m told)!

Upon arrival, I was greeted by the Executive Director, Gail, and the head instructor, Monique, (aka “Miss Monique”) who gave us an overview of their property and the program. From the Ride to Fly website: We are a non-profit organization dedicated to providing therapeutic horseback riding and the associated learning experiences to children and adults with disabilities in a safe, nurturing environment. We believe in the inherent worth and dignity of all people and wish to share the special gift of horsemanship with those with special needs. Ride to Fly is a PATH International (Professional Association of Therapeutic Horsemanship International) member operating center that has been serving the South Bay area since 1994.

First and foremost, they’ve created a quality program and want it to be a safe and pleasant experience for the riders. The variety of challenges the riders face run the gamut, from autism to Down syndrome, to cerebral palsy, anxiety, and many other conditions that compromise the student and can benefit from equine therapy.

Jack with his parents sidewalking, Katie leading

In order for the riders to be safe atop the horse, each horse/rider team requires a team of 3 volunteers comprised of a horse leader who leads the horse around the arena, plus two side-walkers on each side of the rider. More advanced riders might not need both side walkers but for the most part, it is ideal.

The benefits of this program, among many, are the improved core and leg strength from riding a horse. Also, there’s something about the gentle side-to-side gait of the horse that centers and calms the rider.

During that first orientation, Monique shared a few stories about students who had been through the program and some of the benefits they were experiencing:

The first story was about a little girl who was previously non-verbal. Once she had been riding for a while, the dad shared: “I never thought I’d ever have a conversation with my daughter. But since she’s been riding, she now talks nonstop about the horses. Everything horsie. It’s remarkable.“

The second story was about a little boy who was physically challenged and couldn’t stand on his own. After riding at Ride to Fly for some time he first learned to steady himself and then called his dad in to see him standing without aid. The family credits Ride to Fly and his time on the horses for this remarkable feat.

And the third story is about a sweet little boy who fell off his horse a few weeks ago, realized he was on the ground, looked at the horse and decided that’s actually where he’s supposed to be, and walked right over to the horse and got back on. Totally fearless.

Crucial to the program is the calm demeanor of the horses as well. All of the horses are older and some are senior (horses typically live from 25-30 years) and most of the Ride to Fly horses are around 28 years old. What the teachers and program heads have experienced is watching a horse and witnessing the moment the horse realizes that the rider isn’t able-bodied. The horse instinctively knows it and their body language calms to meet the need of the rider. Amazing!

During the orientation, the potential volunteers first learned how to keep the rider safe. We got into the arena with Monique, a Lesson Aide named Katie who was the horse leader and another experienced volunteer who posed as a rider for us to practice with.

We learned how to do a thigh hold (gently but firmly placing an arm on their thigh) to help steady the rider, or for the more advanced rider, a shoe hold at the back of their shoe, just to give them a little extra confidence. We also learned how to do an emergency dismount. One side-walker releases the foot from the stirrup, tosses the reins out of the way, then assists the rider’s leg over the horse’s neck. Then the other side-walker wraps their arms around the rider’s waist and safely pulls them off and away from the horse.

Four horses after lessons were done for the day

Emergency dismounts can be required for a variety of physical reasons, possibly due to a seizure, or the rider could be listing to one side from the heat to name a couple. More often, I understand, emergency dismounts are for disciplinary reasons when the rider isn’t, for example, abiding by the program rules.

After each potential volunteer got to practice the holds and emergency dismounts, we went over to meet and get up close with the horses. Ride to Fly has four horses and they have formed a little herd with a leader and followers. Prince Charming is the leader, Lulu is the mare who tries to get away with as much as she can, and Onions is one of the followers though he will, if you aren’t paying attention, grab at your shirt with his mouth. Their newest horse, Legacy, is a Tennessee Walker and was a show horse until a few months ago. He is still learning to slow down his gait to accommodate the challenged riders on his back.

Grooming Closeup

To conclude the orientation, Gail, the Executive Director, who is absolutely lovely, reveled in how lucky she is to be a part of this program, spending her days in the beautiful Rancho Palos Verdes area at the barn, with the horses and the wonderful people who are attracted to Ride to Fly.

A few weeks later I was scheduled for my first official volunteer day. It was a brisk morning and we were happy to have the physical work of grooming horses, and helping get their tack (saddles and accoutrements) ready for the day. I don’t recall ever grooming a horse when I was a kid so it was wonderful to use the different brushes and groom their big bodies before the saddles were placed on their back for lessons. One of the other volunteers who has more horse experience than me offered to clean out the hooves and help place booties on Lulu’s feet.

I learned that day that not only is Monique a brilliant horsewoman, but she’s also extremely gifted with the students. She is firm and loving and knows what’s going on in their lives and easily engages with each person.

Fiona and Miss Monique connecting before the lesson

Our first lesson arrived and there would be two horse/rider teams in the arena at the same time. I was assigned to be a side walker with Cole, who is a charming 18 year- old young man. He would be riding Onions. And his riding partner, Adriana would be riding Prince Charming. Monique easily engaged with both Cole and Adriana as they were assisted in mounting their horses and she fixed their stirrup lengths.

Then the lesson began, and the students were gently asked by Monique “How do you tell your horse to go forward?” and the students replied: “Walk On,” and off we went. Cole’s face lit up with absolute joy as soon as we were moving, and I was struck by the beauty of the experience. Tears welled up in my eyes and then rolled down my cheek as I felt all of the love that was happening in this program. Thinking about everything that had to happen in order for this program to materialize, from acquiring the barn and appropriate horses, to having a board of directors, fundraising (because equine therapy is not yet covered by insurance or other funding) having a sufficient volunteer staff to support the program, and the incredibly dedicated teachers, Monique, Lea and the Lesson Aide, Katie who possess so many skills in both horsemanship as well as love and caring for the students.

I was grateful that I was wearing sunglasses and a hat and no one saw me crying at the time.

Cole- Two-point stand

The students practiced their two-point stands where they lean forward out of the saddle engaging their core and leg muscles. And they did a little bit of trotting all with the side walkers by their side. (I had never thought about jogging beside a trotting horse before but alas, I was able to do it!) Since it was a windy day that day, even though both riders are experienced and competent, they didn’t do any solo trotting without the aid of the horse leader- just in case the horses felt the excitement and energy of the brisk weather. Monique is very tuned in to the needs of both rider and horse.

At the conclusion of the lesson, Cole and Adriana got to comment on how the other rider did that day. This is standard and gives them an opportunity to both offer and receive praise from a classmate, which are invaluable skills.

Fiona leading her horse over to her family

The next lesson pair was two super sweet, lovely young girls named Kiana and Fiona. Toward the end of the lesson, Fiona’s older brother who is severely challenged, joined the horses and riders, accompanied by his dad, for an opportunity to play a ring game where he names the color of the ring and then passes it gently to the next person. It’s just lovely that Ride to Fly accommodates the entire family.

In the next lesson, one of the students didn’t show up and the other side walkers stayed with the student that was in the arena. I joined Katie and the other volunteers who walked the horses that weren’t participating back to the area where they would either get a tack change or have their tack removed for the day.

Unfortunately, right next to the barn, some tree trimmers showed up with electric saws and started trimming the brush not 20 feet away from the horses. The horses got spooked and we had to ask the tree trimmers to wait until we weren’t so close before they started back up again. We moved the horses to the other side of that area so they wouldn’t be freaked out. Horses are prey in the wild and when they feel threatened they take off. We certainly wouldn’t want them to feel afraid or bolt, and we were grateful the people with the scary electric saws could accommodate us.

Kiana getting her stirrups adjusted by Miss Monique

Monique had shared with us on many occasions that she is dyslexic and often mixes up her right and left- including when she is instructing. On my second visit, while we were grooming the horses, she good-naturedly shared with us that at one time she was an instructor for able-bodied riders who showed horses. The problem is, with the dyslexia, she would often get the course confused and offer misinformation to the rider. While this might initially sound like a negative, it turns out that it’s a giant positive for Ride to Fly because they get the benefit of Monique’s tender, fun, direct and upbeat way with the kids and families, employees and volunteers.

During my second week volunteering, as one of the girls was mounting her horse, she told Monique that she had seen the movie Cinderella. Monique could instantly have a conversation about which version of the movie she had seen, the characters and more. Very impressive.

Cole solo

This day, it was much warmer and the students were able to do some trotting without the aid of the horse leader. They did some yoga poses on the horse, like upward dog and downward dog to stretch and strengthen their muscles and then squeezing their hands to strengthen hands and arms.

Once again, I was moved by all of the love present at the barn, to and from the horses, the participants, their families and more. I’m so honored to participate in this quality organization, even if my final job that day was to haul a bucket of manure…

Many thanks to Ride to Fly for the amazing gifts you give to people with challenges and their families. You are truly angels. And I am deeply grateful to the Ride to Fly families who agreed to allow me to take photos of their beautiful children to be used in this article.

If you would like to learn more about Ride to Fly and see what some of the participating families say about their experiences, please visit their website.

And if you are not in Southern California and would like to learn more about equine therapy in your area, please check out the PATH website.

For more information about animal rescue and the human-animal bond, please visit my website.

A Hero’s Hero. Meet Steve Spiro, Co-Founder of Shelter Transport Animal Rescue Team

Steve & CHUNKY

I learned about Shelter Transport Animal Rescue Team (S.T.A.R.T) six years ago and have been a vocal supporter ever since. Story after story, they are champions for the voiceless. There are so many rescue groups doing amazing work, but START is special. Everyone involved in this organization is special. Not only open-hearted but creative too. Each week I read their newsletter and learn about a dog or dogs that they are raising money for so they can pull them from the Los Angeles shelter system. The next step is they put the dogs on a transport van to a better life in the Pacific Northwest. I’ve spoken with Steve Spiro, co-founder, a couple of times and met him in person once. (See the end of the interview to learn where. It’s likely NOT where you might think.) He is dedicated, authentic as they come and a real mensch.

Steve and Suzanna hanging out with some rescue dogs

Meet Steve!

DRS: So tell me Steve, how did START get started?

SS: Years ago, my wife, Suzanna and I were rescuing one dog at a time but wanted to do more to help; especially for the pit bulls who are truly one of the greatest breeds! We also wanted to find a way to fund spay and neuter surgeries for low-income families to help slow down shelter intake due to unwanted litters.

“The Beast”

In May 2011 we arranged a meeting at our house with some like-minded folk (Rene Ruston, Tom Rogan and Adam Tarshis), and agreed to set up a non-profit. We focused on transports and a Spay/Neuter program and were lucky enough to form a great little team. Adam Tarshis bought us our first van and we outfitted it with shelves that would accommodate crates.

We called ourselves Shelter Transport Animal Rescue Team (START).

Our friend, Candace Modrell was originally from Oregon and knew several humane societies and rescue groups in the Pacific Northwest that wanted/needed our California dogs. Candace had been a transport coordinator for another foundation and joined our little team. We drew up an application form and contract to send to each group that wanted to partner with us (our requirements are very strict) and START was on its way!

DRS: How does your organization help both animals and people?

SS: I think our transport program has given shelter workers and volunteers hope. They get to see many dogs leave their facility each month and know they are heading to new homes in the Pacific Northwest. We send out a weekly newsletter, with happy adoption stories and it is very heartwarming. We have also received emails in the past from families whose dog or cat we have funded for spay/neuter and are grateful for our help after learning how many unwanted animals end up in the shelter system.

A recent example of dog helping human helping dog is the story of 3 pitbull mixes we pulled from the Porterville Shelter. The dogs were scheduled for euthanasia as the shelter was full and they needed the room. (Most shelters have to kill for space!) All 3 dogs were very friendly and a shelter worker reached out to us for help as she had bonded with the dogs and didn’t want them to die. Our transport was in 2 days and the wonderful people at the Safehaven Humane Society in Oregon stepped up and offered to take all 3 dogs on our transport.

The dogs were adopted within a week!

We then learned that one of these dogs (who was very scared at the shelter) would be trained as a service pet for the husband who suffered from depression. They bonded bringing each other much joy and lifting each other’s spirits. When the shelter worker heard about the story she sobbed with happiness.

DRS: I’m sure that working in a shelter is so difficult. I can’t imagine it. And it’s so powerful that you pull these dogs and not only give them a chance but their very existence helps people in a palpable way.

Do you have a favorite pet or animal story?

HERO

SS: I have many, but my favorite story was the emaciated stray found on the street and taken to the Riverside shelter.

The shelter director, a wonderful man named Robert Miller, was horrified at the dog’s condition and rushed him to the emergency. The dog had terminal cancer. Robert Miller asked us if we’d give the dog one day of happiness to experience love, and we agreed. We named him HERO.

But – the “ONE” day turned into 52 days. We received countless emails enquiring about him. He had a fan club! HERO felt the love. He affected thousands of people. He was obsessed with the tennis ball and people began sending him them to him by the dozen. It’s amazing what love can bring. We witnessed true selflessness. When HERO passed away he took our hearts with him.

You can read the heartbreaking and love-filled story here: https://startrescue.org/featured/52-days-with-hero/.

DRS: That story made me cry the first time you shared it, the second time you shared it and now as I’m posting it, I’m crying again. It is so beautiful.

Steve, can you offer 3 professional tips to my readers?

SS:

1. Every dog should wear a name tag and be microchipped. If your dog gets lost and isn’t wearing a name tag most people won’t take the time to take the pet to vet or shelter to scan him to find the owner. If the dog is wearing a name tag then a phone call will reunite owner and pet quickly.

2. Spay and neuter your pets. Find a free or low-cost clinic (there are many.) It’s good for the obvious reproduction reasons and it can prevent certain types of cancer too.

3. Be kind – compassion goes a long way.

Bonus tip:

4. Volunteer – Giving back to others is one of the most rewarding and fulfilling experiences. Whether it’s helping animals, people or the environment. Go do something. Amazing things happen when we stop worrying about ourselves so much!

Some of the START Team (Candace, Steve, Suzanna, Rene, Alicia)

DRS: Excellent tips, Steve! What’s next up for you and START?

SS: We are trying to expand our spay / neuter programs for low-income families. We fund around 90 spay/neuters a month at Riverside, CA and have now just set up funding 50 dogs/cats a month at Porterville, CA. We have also discussed getting our own property at some point. Stay tuned! 🙂

DRS: Fabulous. That is so exciting. Where can we learn more about you and your organization?

SS: STARTrescue.org

DRS: Is there anything else you would like for people to know about you or START?

SS: The START board members are all volunteers. We donate our time as we want to try and make the world a little better. Rescue work can be very stressful but also very rewarding. I truly believe that it has made me a better person and I have made some great friends in the process. To date, we have transported over 9,500 dogs and cats and funded over 4000 spay/neuter surgeries.

DRS: Thanks for your words of inspiration, Steve. I’m consistently inspired each time I open your newsletter. I know it takes a village, lots of time, effort and funding and I’m proud to support your efforts.

For those of you who are curious where I met Steve in person… He is also the author and star of a one-man show called UK Underdog https://pacificresidenttheatre.com/uk-underdog/. It is poignant and funny and Steve is masterful at keeping the audience entertained throughout. I wanted to support his play when it opened in November and I was riveted the entire time. Keep an eye out for UK Underdog as it will be playing larger venues soon!

Yes, Steve was an underdog but he “realized his strength” and now he helps the canine underdogs in our world. Kudos to you Steve. Keep up the amazing work with everything you do.

And thank you to you and everyone at START for your contribution to What to Expect When Adopting a Dog. I am most grateful.

Professional Communication Skill Building in the Pet Industry and Beyond Thanks to Carolyn Shadle

Carolyn and I met after a conference we both attended a few years ago. I learned that she teaches communication which is so important, and I love that she helps veterinarians communicate better! That seems to be a skill that would benefit every pet parent. As you’ll see, what she teaches is really transferable to any business or even personal interaction. Plus, she offers three excellent tips you can utilize in your everyday life, starting right now.

DRS: How did you get started in your pet business?

CS: I took a communication course when my children were very small and decided that I wanted to know more and to share what I was learning. I returned to school to earn a Ph.D. in interpersonal and organizational communication, and I began writing and offering training to parents and professionals in all fields (including hi-tech, manufacturing, public agencies and non-profits).

About 20 years ago I was serving as Associate Dean of Professional Development at the University of Denver’s Daniels School of Business. I had the good fortune of hiring Constance Hardesty to help us with our marketing. A few years later she became Editor of Trends Magazine published by the American Animal Hospital Association. She decided to start a new feature focusing on communication – with clients and with teammates. She remembered that I had been doing communication training (through and around my job at the university), and she asked me to write case studies for the magazine addressing interpersonal skills (which veterinarians often don’t have time for in their formal training). I teamed up with my husband, John Meyer, who also has a Ph.D. in communication and is a bit of a thespian.

After writing cases for several years, Constance asked us to put the case studies into a training manual, including principles of effective communication, tips, cases and how to use cases for training in the veterinary practice. It was published by AAHA as Communication Case Studies: Building Interpersonal Skills in the Veterinary Practice.

So, for the last 17 years, we have focused on how enhanced communication skills can enrich the veterinary profession. During this interim, I retired from my “day job” at the university and have been able to focus on the communication training and writing. Along the way, we have learned a lot about animals, the veterinary business, and the pleasure and power of pet ownership. Through membership in VetPartners (an organization for consultants in the veterinary field), we have also learned a lot from other consultants in the field.

We’ve been invited to write for several veterinary publications around many practice management topics, and we’ve presented workshops at numerous conferences.

DRS: Indeed. We met at a conference! Thank you for sharing your expertise.

How does your business help both animals and people?

CS: Our training helps the people who serve pet owners and their animals. In addition to communication training dealing with client engagement and team interaction, we have helped practices with other Practice Management issues, including how to define their brand, moving to electronic medical records, appreciating the ins and outs of veterinary dentistry, and understanding relationship selling as contrasted with transactional selling.

DRS: Do you have a connection with animal rescue?

CS: As we have worked in this field, we have become increasingly aware of the wonderful work the animal rescue centers do and the pleasure that pet owners get from fostering or rescuing animals. We have visited and supported the local humane society both directly and through the fundraising events of local veterinary hospitals. One outstanding event is called “Paws and Pints,” sponsored by La Jolla Veterinary Hospital in cooperation with a local dining venue. It has become a popular gathering for pet lovers.

DRS: Do you have a favorite animal story?

CS: Yes. I have a vivid memory of the power of the pet. Early in my working life, I directed a summer camp. We housed the rabbits from the local winter nursery school. That summer one of the campers was quite young and from a troubled family. He was very angry and had difficulty controlling his temper and communicating with care and control. The other campers avoided him.

One day I found him seated in front of the rabbit cage talking to the rabbits. He was quiet and caring. It was clear that he felt great warmth for these animals and that they appreciated him. They didn’t talk back; they didn’t judge him; they didn’t avoid him. His regular visits to the rabbit cage were the highlight of his week. So is the daily welcome greeting many pet owners enjoy! It taught me, early on, how valuable loving a pet can be – for both owner and pet.

DRS: The power of the human-animal bond!

Can you offer 3 professional tips to my readers?

CS:

1. Take time to understand the power of empathy (and how it contrasts with sympathy).

2. Learn why listening is difficult and different ways one can increase the ability to listen – to hear both thoughts and feelings.

3. It’s worth practicing “reflective listening,” whereby, instead of responding to another’s news or concern with your own story, you “reflect” back what you have heard or perceived. It’s amazing how this practice opens up the conversation.

DRS: These are wonderful. And they can be applied to all areas of our lives. What’s next up for your business? What can we be looking for?

CS: We have been asked to write for a new publication, the American Veterinarian. We are also being asked to propose workshops that go beyond the veterinary practice to include dog training, pet holistic medicine, animal welfare, animal behavior, and palliative care. Watch for us.

DRS: Fabulous. Where can we learn more about you and your business?

CS:

www.veterinariancommunication.com

www.facebook.com/ICSVetCommunication

DRS: Is there anything else you would like for people to know about you or your business?

CS: The communication skills that we teach are transferable. Although we focus much of our work on communicating with veterinary clients and building healthy and effective teams, we also address other professions and individuals who know that “soft skills” are the hardest – and essential to success.

As a primer and/or a review, we have assembled a booklet entitled “Positive People Experiences: 8 Ingredients for Business Success.” It can be purchased from Amazon or at www.veterinariancommunication.com, A downloadable complimentary copy is available from our website.

DRS: Thank you for sharing that with my readers! What a gift. And thank you again for your contribution to What to Expect When Adopting a Dog. I am most grateful. We will be looking out for your articles in American Veterinarian!